Over the years I have been influenced by some books that may be helpful to you too.

Trapped in the Mirror By Elan Golumb, PhD.

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver

The Energy of Money by Maria Nemeth, PhD.

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel, MFT

Addiction to Perfection by Marion Woodman, PhD.

Eating By the Light of the Moon by Anita A Johnston PhD.

Eating Mindfully by Susan Albers PhD.

There is a path to reclaiming yourself through help in conjunction with a community.  The following links can enhance your greater understanding of self in relationship with others.

   www.adultchildren.org   Adult Children of Alcoholics

    www.codependents.org   Codependents Anonymous

     www.pwp069.org    Parents Without Partners

     www.oa.org   Overeaters Anonymous

     www.debtorsanonymous.org  Debtors Anonymous

     www.aa.org   Alcoholics Anonymous

     www.al-anon.alateen.org   Alanon/Alateen Anonymous

     www.EDReferral.com    Eating Disorder Referral Network